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Le secret d’un sexe époustouflant ? Crayonnez les ébats dans votre journal et discutez de tout ce qui vous excite à l’avance

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Le secret d’un sexe époustouflant ? Crayonnez des ébats dans votre journal et discutez à l’avance de toute excitation avec votre partenaire (c’est-à-dire, selon un expert qui pense que la spontanéité est surestimée)

  • Pour le meilleur sexe, les personnes de plus de 40 ans devraient le programmer dans leur agenda, déclare un coach sexuel
  • Pour éviter les malentendus, il est plus sûr de demander à quelqu’un si vous pouvez l’embrasser en premier

La passion spontanée ne devrait plus être le but des gens après 40 ans, a conseillé un coach sexuel et relationnel.

Pour le meilleur sexe, les personnes de plus de 40 ans devraient le programmer dans leur agenda et discuter de ce qui se passera dans la chambre pour assurer une satisfaction mutuelle.

Même lorsqu’il s’agit de sortir avec plus de 40 ans, attraper quelqu’un pour un baiser passionné est apparemment une approche datée.

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Pour éviter les malentendus, il est beaucoup plus sûr de demander à quelqu’un si vous pouvez l’embrasser en premier, selon Ruth Ramsay, qui aide les couples à améliorer leur vie sexuelle.

Le coach d’intimité abordera les mythes autour du sexe pour les personnes âgées de 40 à 70 ans lors de l’événement Postcards from Midlife Live qui se tiendra à Londres les 19 et 20 mai.

Le secret d’un sexe époustouflant ?  Crayonnez les ébats dans votre journal et discutez de tout ce qui vous excite à l’avance

Pour le meilleur sexe, les personnes de plus de 40 ans doivent le programmer dans leur agenda et discuter de ce qui se passera dans la chambre pour assurer une satisfaction mutuelle.

Elle dit que les gens doivent abandonner l’idée que le sexe programmé, récemment recommandé par la présentatrice de télévision Mariella Frostrup, n’est pas romantique, et accepter de le planifier et de discuter de ce que cela impliquera.

Ramsay a déclaré au Mail: «Nous sommes attachés à cette idée de sexe passionné spontané et sans paroles, mais dans la quarantaine, dans des relations établies de longue date, planifier le sexe et savoir qu’il se prépare peut produire plus de désir.

«Nous ne devrions pas traiter le sexe comme quelque chose que nous faisons spontanément s’il y a du temps, après tout le reste de la vie, du travail aux tâches ménagères, en passant par l’administration de la vie et la garde des enfants.

«C’est comme ça que les gens passent des semaines ou des mois sans avoir de relations sexuelles du tout.

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“Il vaut mieux le traiter comme un passe-temps, auquel vous réservez une heure, car c’est important pour vous et vous voulez vous assurer que cela se produise.”

La coach sexuelle met en garde contre le sexe passionné «silencieux et sans paroles», du type qu’elle dit figurer dans des émissions de télévision populaires comme Bridgerton, conseillant plutôt aux couples de parler de sexe avant qu’il ne se produise.

Mythes relationnels après 40 ans

Le sexe diminue dans la quarantaine – il n’est pas nécessaire

Le sexe devrait être sans mots – mieux vaut parler de ce que vous aimez au lit

La passion doit être spontanée – planifiez à l’avance pour vous assurer qu’elle se produise réellement

Les hommes veulent toujours du sexe – cela peut changer à mesure qu’ils vieillissent

Les femmes sont satisfaites rapidement – cela prend plus de temps que ce que nous voyons à la télévision

Attraper quelqu’un pour un baiser est séduisant – il peut être préférable de demander d’abord

Elle a déclaré: «Les trois principaux problèmes que rencontrent les femmes dans la quarantaine sont qu’elles ont perdu leur libido, que leur partenaire n’est plus intéressé par le sexe ou qu’elles veulent plus que ce qu’elles vivent actuellement dans la chambre.

“Parler de sexe avant qu’il ne se produise n’est pas anti-romantique, cela évite de supposer que l’autre personne est un télépathe.

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“C’est une bonne occasion pour les deux personnes de parler de ce qu’elles aimeraient que le sexe inclue pour leur donner du plaisir.”

Le sexe spontané est souvent montré comme se produisant – et se terminant – très rapidement à l’écran, ce qui est une autre raison de ne pas le copier, selon Ramsay.

Elle a déclaré: «À la télévision, les femmes peuvent atteindre l’orgasme en quelques minutes, mais les preuves montrent que dans la vraie vie, il faut en moyenne 13 minutes et demie d’excitation élevée avant qu’une femme n’atteigne l’orgasme.

“L’une des principales raisons pour lesquelles les femmes font semblant est qu’elles craignent de prendre trop de temps, ce qui est une autre raison pour laquelle une heure prévue pour le sexe peut être meilleure qu’un quickie.”

Enfin, pour ceux qui sortent après un divorce ou célibataires après 40 ans, Ramsay a déclaré que les règles avaient changé.

Avertissant qu’un homme attrapant une femme pour un baiser peut sembler présomptueux, elle a déclaré: «Demander à quelqu’un à voix basse si vous pouvez l’embrasser peut être très sexy et aider l’autre personne à se détendre dans le plaisir.

“Il n’est pas nécessaire d’avoir un contrat commercial au préalable, mais il est important de rechercher le consentement plutôt que d’essayer d’être spontané.”

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Revealed: The bowel cancer breakthrough that could save young sufferers – and the signs doctors can miss

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A bowel cancer treatment that gives hope to people with the same aggressive form that hit Dame Deborah James has been approved for use on the NHS.

The drug combination – two medicines called trifluridine-­tipiracil hydrochloride and bevacizumab – will be introduced following a US trial which found that for patients who had run out of treatment options it bought nearly an extra year of life.

And in some rare cases, it gave patients up to seven more years.

Experts say it is a significant step in the fight against the BRAF V6004E mutation, an incurable genetic form of bowel cancer which often affects the young.

Revealed: The bowel cancer breakthrough that could save young sufferers – and the signs doctors can miss

Dame Deborah James had the aggressive BRAF mutation. Under the name Bowelbabe, the deputy headteacher went on to build up a massive social media following

A blood sample taken as part of testing for the mutation. Most sufferers do not live longer than ten months after diagnosis

A blood sample taken as part of testing for the mutation. Most sufferers do not live longer than ten months after diagnosis

Of the 42,000 Britons diagnosed with bowel cancer every year, about one in ten carry the BRAF mutation. Chemotherapy and other medicines quickly become ineffective, and most sufferers do not live longer than ten months after diagnosis.

Dame Deborah was just 35 in 2016 when she was diagnosed with BRAF bowel cancer. Under the name Bowelbabe, the deputy headteacher went on to build up a massive social media following while documenting her progress and raising awareness of the disease and its symptoms until her death in 2022.

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The drug combination has been available privately in the UK for eight years, at a cost of about £2,000 a month.

However, last month the NHS spending watchdog, the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE), gave it the green light for patients who have already undergone two failed treatments. It is predicted that it will benefit about 1,000 people a year.

‘Many patients have been on the regimen for years privately, stalling the cancer in its tracks,’ says Anna Bennett, from the patient group Breaking BRAF, which campaigns for new treatments.

‘Some have achieved stability in excess of a year or two and we know of one patient who lived for nearly seven years more. We are delighted by this decision.’

Professor Marco Gerlinger, head of gastrointestinal cancer medicine at Barts Cancer Institute in London, says approval of the drug combo is a ‘fantastic development’.

‘For the past ten years there have been no highly effective drugs for this type of cancer,’ he adds. ‘But now we have a really great option for patients.’

The BRAF mutation causes cancers to grow quicker than they would otherwise. For this reason, people who carry it often see symptoms arise at an early age.

The mutation is also linked with skin and brain cancer, and appears to be more common in women.

BRAF cancers rapidly become resistant to treatment, meaning patients require different interventions to keep them alive.

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During her six-year battle with bowel cancer, Dame Deborah underwent more than a dozen surgeries, 100 rounds of chemotherapy and more than ten targeted drug therapies.

Trifluridine-tipiracil hydrochloride – also known as Lonsurf – is a daily tablet that stops the growth of new cancer cells. Bevacizumab, also known as Avastin, works by blocking the formation of new blood vessels which feed tumours and allow them to grow. It is given intravenously every two weeks in hospital.

Both drugs are taken for as long as they remain effective.

The clinical trial, reported in the New England Journal of Medicine last year, concluded the combo provided an average of ten months extra survival, but many patients lived up to a year-and-a-half longer. The drugs also triggered few serious side effects, with the most common being nausea and vomiting.

While patient groups welcomed the decision by NICE to fund the treatment, they criticised the delay which meant many desperate patients ended up going private.

‘It’s unforgivable that we got into such a situation whereby so many patients died without access to a drug that could have given them months, if not years, more life,’ says Ms Bennett, whose sister Rebecca died from bowel cancer,

Mother-of-two Emily Georghiou, 47, from London, was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2021

Mother-of-two Emily Georghiou, 47, from London, was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2021

‘People now have hope when they previously faced the hideous decision of life versus debt.’

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One patient who stands to benefit from the combo is mother-of-two Emily Georghiou, 47, from London, who was diagnosed in 2021.

‘Ever since chemotherapy failed for me, and I discovered I have the aggressive BRAF mutation, I have felt like a ticking time bomb,’ says Emily a former healthcare policy adviser. ‘We don’t have the money or private insurance to pay for drugs, and while I started a fundraiser I knew eventually I would run out of money to stay alive.

‘When you have this condition you very much live scan to scan – at any point your condition can change.

‘This announcement gives me hope, because if that time comes I now know it is there.

‘It is incredibly important I can be around for as long as possible for my beautiful boys.’

The patient group Breaking BRAF hopes to see another promising drug combo – botensilimab and balstilimab – approved in the near future. It also argues it is crucial that GPs are reminded of the signs of bowel cancer in young people, such as blood in faeces, unexpected weight loss, fatigue or feeling that the bowel doesn’t fully empty.

‘So many patients, including my sister, were dismissed by GPs until it became an emergency,’ says Ms Bennett. ‘With bowel cancer becoming more common in young people, it’s crucial doctors know the early symptoms.’

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Moment ex-convict is greeted outside prison by a £200K Lamborghini after being freed early under Labour’s controversial scheme as hundreds of criminals celebrate release from prison

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This is the moment an ex-convict was greeted outside jail by a £200,000 Lamborghini after being freed under Labour’s early prison release scheme.

Around 1,700 people were let out by the controversial scheme today, with everyone eligible for release apart from violent criminals jailed for more than four years.

Photographs outside HMP Pentonville in London show a group of men gathered outside a black and red Lamborghini, including one prisoner dressed in a lakers T-shirt with his hair in dreadlocks. 

Footage then shows the luxury vehicle driving along the street, with the prisoner understood to have been picked up by either the Lamborghini or a Bentley. 

The stunning car is filmed driving slowing through a pedestrian crossing and around a bend on a busy street of cars and pedestrians. 

Footage shows the luxury Lamborghini driving off after parking up outside the prison

Footage shows the luxury Lamborghini driving off after parking up outside the prison 

A group of men gathered outside Pentonville prison in London today

A group of men gathered outside Pentonville prison in London today

The car is filmed driving slowing through a pedestrian crossing and around a bend

The car is filmed driving slowing through a pedestrian crossing and around a bend

The prisoner (pictured) is understood to have been picked up by either the Lamborghini or a Bentley

The prisoner (pictured) is understood to have been picked up by either the Lamborghini or a Bentley 

The driver of the car is interviewed by reporters outside the prison today

The driver of the car is interviewed by reporters outside the prison today 

Those set free by the scheme include hardened drug dealers, violent domestic abusers and even people who have played roles in the killing of teenagers, much to the fury of their victims’ loved ones. 

More than 5,000 are to be set loose over the next six weeks, including domestic abusers and sex offenders. 

Downing Street said the policy had to be brought in to avoid the police and courts becoming unable to lock anyone up because there were no places available.

But chief inspector of prisons Charlie Taylor warned some of those released would be homeless which could increase their chances of reoffending. 

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Apple fans are revelling in one of their favourite occasions of the year – the announcement of a new iPhone. 

The iPhone 16 unveiled last night features new AI capabilities, camera upgrades and a boost in battery life, and is available in a range of colours. 

But it is the arrival of a brand new button on the edge of the device that is getting people most excited. 

The capture button needs to be pressed once to bring up the camera app to take photos and even delivers haptic feedback, much like a video game controller. 

Commentators have called the nifty selfie shortcut ‘incredible’ and the ‘coolest feature ever’, but other fans are sharing concerns that it won’t work with a case. 

The iPhone 16 and iPhone 16 Plus were the first two smartphones unveiled at the event, with Apple claiming they ¿mark the beginning of a new era for iPhone'

The iPhone 16 and iPhone 16 Plus were the first two smartphones unveiled at the event, with Apple claiming they ‘mark the beginning of a new era for iPhone’

With the new iPhone 16, a solid push of the capture button – located on the edge of the phone to the right of the screen – immediately brings up the camera app, while a second push snaps a photo. 

But users can also scroll their finger back and forth along the length of the button to zoom in and out. 

Naturally, fans have started to wonder how that is ‘going to work with a case’ that’s covering the edges of the device.  

On its website, Apple claims the capture button works ‘seamlessly’ with a new phone case that has ‘sapphire crystal’ and a ‘conductive layer to communicate finger movements’. 

Apple is selling this official iPhone 16 case in a range of colours on its website for a hefty £49 – an extra expense on top of the price of the phone itself. 

Commentators have called it 'incredible' and the 'coolest feature ever', but other fans are sharing concerns that it won't work with a case

Commentators have called it ‘incredible’ and the ‘coolest feature ever’, but other fans are sharing concerns that it won’t work with a case

A solid push of the capture button immediately brings up the camera app, while a second push snaps a photo. But users can also scroll their finger back and forth along the length of the button to zoom in and out. Naturally fans started to wonder how that is 'going to work with a case' around the device

A solid push of the capture button immediately brings up the camera app, while a second push snaps a photo. But users can also scroll their finger back and forth along the length of the button to zoom in and out. Naturally fans started to wonder how that is ‘going to work with a case’ around the device

X user @Erick_O_Mokua said capture button 'looks incredible' in response to a video demonstrating how it works

X user @Erick_O_Mokua said capture button ‘looks incredible’ in response to a video demonstrating how it works 

This official case doesn't have a cut-out hole for the capture button, but instead uses 'sapphire crystal' and a 'conductive layer to communicate finger movements'

This official case doesn’t have a cut-out hole for the capture button, but instead uses ‘sapphire crystal’ and a ‘conductive layer to communicate finger movements’

iPhone 16 prices 

  • iPhone 16 (standard): £799/$799
  • iPhone 16 Plus: £899/$899
  • iPhone 16 Pro: £999/$999
  • iPhone 16 Pro Max: £1,199/$1,199

Ultimately, it means cases sold by third-party vendors may not allow the capture button to work; MailOnline has contacted Apple for more information. 

Capture button sits flush with the side of the phone, rather than sticking out, so it may be more difficult to press with a case than without. 

MailOnline’s Shivali Best, who is in Cupertino for the iPhone 16 unveiling event, said the new button requires a ‘solid push’ and ‘takes some getting used to’. 

iPhone 16 – which comes out on September 20 – also comes equipped with another button dubbed the ‘action button’ on the other side, above the volume controls. 

While the action button was only included in the iPhone 15 Pro smartphones last year, Apple has put it on all four iPhone 16 variants this year.

Apple's new iPhone 16 will come in much more pastel and vibrant colors than previous models

Apple’s new iPhone 16 will come in much more pastel and vibrant colors than previous models

The iPhone 16, starting at $799/£799, comes in two display sizes – 6.1 inches, and 6.7 inches for the Plus model (which costs £899/$899).

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Meanwhile the two most expensive options – the Pro and Pro Max – respectively have 6.3-inch and 6.9-inch displays and cost £999/$999 and £1,199/$1,199. 

The phones are powered by new A18 chips, which feature a 16-core neural engine designed for generative AI-linked tasks and Apple Intelligence. 

What is Apple Intelligence? Tech giant’s AI platform for the new iPhone 16 is coming to the US next month – but UK users will have to wait 

As Apple launched the new iPhone 16 at its ‘Glowtime’ event last night, it was the company’s latest AI features which took centre stage once again.

Now, Apple has finally revealed that its highly anticipated Apple Intelligence will begin to roll out in the US next month.

As part of the iOS 18.1 update, iPhone 16 users will get access to AI features including rewriting tools, summarised notifications, and big improvements to Siri.

However, UK tech fans will need to wait a little while longer as the California-based tech giant says that Apple Intelligence won’t arrive there until December.

So, with the rollout of Apple’s first-ever AI tools just around the corner, MailOnline breaks down what is coming and when you can expect to try it out.

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Presidential and vice presidential debates have been the highlight of the US presidential election campaign calendar since John F. Kennedy and Richard Nixon faced off in the first televised debate in history in 1960. Over the next six decades, candidates have sparred and argued, often delivering memorable quips and rips.

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Give yourself the best chance of securing pension credit worth £3,900: Applicants face call centre chaos, eight-month delays and unanswered letters – read our essential guide

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Politicians turned their backs on ten million pensioners yesterday, leaving them with just one hope of holding on to winter fuel payments.

Sir Keir Starmer won a vote in the House of Commons to scrap winter fuel allowance worth up to £300 towards energy bills for anyone who does not receive pension credit.

But those who apply for the credit now could be left waiting until spring before they receive any money, with no help during winter.

Money Mail has found that some pensioners have been waiting up to eight months this year for these vital top-ups to the state pension.

Give yourself the best chance of securing pension credit worth £3,900: Applicants face call centre chaos, eight-month delays and unanswered letters – read our essential guide

Sir Keir Starmer and shadow chancellor Rachel Reeves during a walkabout in Great Yarmouth, Norfolk

Experts warn that delays could escalate, as tens of thousands have rushed to apply in record numbers in recent weeks.

More than 38,500 applications for pension credit have been made in the five weeks after the Chancellor Rachel Reeves’ proposal to axe the winter fuel payment on July 29. That is an extra 20,600 applications compared to the previous five weeks. Her timing could not be worse as energy bills are due to soar 10 pc next month leaving ten million pensioners without support.

Last week, Money Mail exposed how pensioners who want to keep their winter fuel allowance face a gruelling application process to the Department of Work and Pensions (DWP) that involves answering hundreds of questions on baffling subjects, including if they want to claim pension credit for any children.

Dozens of readers have since written to us about their ongoing battles to receive the pension credit money they desperately need – and are entitled to after a lifetime of paying taxes.

They paint a picture reminiscent of other government departments in dissaray such as HMRC and many complain of long call wait times to get through to the DWP. In one case, a reader was told there were 200 people in a queue ahead of her to receive pension credit. They also say their letters have gone unanswered for months.

Others give a litany of complaints about DWP staff – that they give out incorrect information, are wrongly rejecting applicants, making poor excuses, are rude to callers and make false promises. In one case, a reader was told the delays ‘hadn’t been helped by the war in Ukraine’.

For years, pension credit has been one of the biggest untapped resources available to those who retire with little or no private savings. Yet an estimated 880,000 have failed to claim because they incorrectly believe they are not eligible, are unaware of it or feel too proud to accept government handouts.

You are eligible for pension credit if you (and a partner) have reached state pension age — currently 66 — and have a low income and little put away.

If you do qualify, pension credit tops up weekly income to a minimum of £218.15 for single people and £332.95 for couples.

Brenda Ronayne, 77, has never been in debt but fears she will soon be forced into the red and may even have to remortgage her home after she has been left waiting five months for her £400-a-month pension credit.

A proud business owner for the past 31 years, Brenda was heartbroken to shut up her sandwich shop Baguette Bar in Swindon, Wiltshire, in March after facing a number of struggles with the enterprise.

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She needs pension credit to get by and filled in an application at the start of April.

Within weeks, the DWP confirmed she qualified but five months and numerous phone calls later, Brenda has yet to receive a penny.

She says: ‘In June I was told I would be paid within three to five days. That never happened and when I called in July, I was told there were 200 people in the queue ahead of me waiting for pension credit.’

She warned DWP staff of her fears she will have to remortgage her house if it is not paid soon, as she is burning through her savings.

When she called again just last week, Brenda was shocked to be told her application had not yet been processed.

She says: ‘It’s getting critical – I need the money to come through. I applied in good faith. When I asked about the queue and mentioned the 200 people ahead of me, the woman more or less said I was lying about that. She said, “no one would have given you this information”.’

Following Money Mail’s involvement, the DWP has confirmed it is reviewing Brenda’s case.

Derek Bridges, from Taunton in Somerset, was delighted in March when a call handler at the DWP told him he should be receiving pension credit.

At 71 and receiving £202.25 a week from the state pension, Derek met the age and income criteria.

Sir Steve Webb, a former pension minister and now partner at consultancy LCP

Sir Steve Webb, a former pension minister and now partner at consultancy LCP

Any savings or investments above £10,000 will affect the amount of pension credit you receive. Every £500 over that sum is counted as £1-a-week income and used to work out what top-up you get, if any.

Those caring for a relative, as Derek is for his daughter Claire and his 92-year-old mother-in-law who is bedridden, can get an extra £38.85 a week, and disabled pensioners an additional £69.40.

Derek has severe arthritis and should qualify for the disability top-up.

He was advised by the DWP worker to apply and make a request for the payment to be backdated for the three previous months, which he promptly did.

But within a week he received a letter telling him that his pension credit claim was unsuccessful.

Derek is not alone. Over the past five years, the DWP has turned down a third of all applications, according to a Freedom of Information request by wealth manager Quilter.

Upon taking it to the local Citizen’s Advice Bureau, he was assured the DWP had made a mistake and he was entitled to the payment.

Derek requested a mandatory review but has not heard anything since.

He says: ‘They don’t seem to care – it’s like facing a brick wall. It shouldn’t be that I have to fight for it. At the beginning I was told there was a 13-week delay. If that is still the case, people will be waiting until mid-December for their applications to go through.’

Pension credit is a gateway to many benefits, worth a combined £3,900 on average, including free dental care, a free TV licence, council tax discounts and help with rent and mortgage costs.

Derek says: ‘Without the badge of pension credit, it curtails all the other payments too.

‘It’s not a fair process. The form is so hard to fill in in the first place – they word the questions in a way that makes it easy to trip up. We lowered the heating last year and will have to lower it even more this year.’

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‘The payment means you can have the heating on for a little bit longer when it’s really cold.’

Julie Jones, from Derby, who has helped her 92-year-old mother Constance apply for a pension credit top-up, says they have been left waiting since January.

The great-grandmother-of-four received a letter from the DWP rejecting her application on the grounds she had too much in savings – £18,277 – which Julie says is incorrect.

Julie says: ‘We have no idea where this figure has come from – she only has one account and there was £9,500 in it when I applied. There’s even less now.’

Savings under £10,000 do not count towards your income in the calculation for pension credit so Julie has sent copies of bank statements to the DWP to prove her point.

Julie’s letters have gone unanswered yet each time she calls the DWP she is asked to write yet another letter.

She says: ‘What is the point of writing when the DWP just ignores them? I’m tired of its shocking misinformation, obstinacy, lack of care and understanding, and an attitude of ‘we’ll get to you when we get to you’. The DWP seems oblivious to the stress and upset its inaction causes.’

There are however, clever tricks to use when filling in a 243-question pension credit application to make sure the process runs as smoothly as possible.

Derek was advised by the Citizen’s Advice Bureau to complete the application over the phone and let DWP workers fill forms on your behalf.

He says: ‘The advice bureau said you are better off letting them fill it in for you. The way they word the question, it’s very easy to trip up when you are answering.’

Sir Steve Webb, a former pension minister and now partner at consultancy LCP, echoes this, recommending you call the pension credit helpline to apply rather than filling in a paper form. This is because call centre staff can skip dozens of questions where a section doesn’t apply to you. For example if you don’t have any child dependents or if you don’t claim any disability benefits.

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The one-woman warrior fighting ‘national scandal’ 

Theresa Fazzani helps struggling pensioners with their applications

Theresa Fazzani helps struggling pensioners with their applications

Theresa Fazzani is a one-woman pension-credit warrior, helping struggling pensioners with their applications.

The 58-year-old has been through the entire application process for ten pensioners aged between 65 and 84 in the past year. And after spending more than 100 hours wrangling with the forms, she says the application process is a ‘national scandal’.

She first offered to help her neighbour June just over a year ago. When news of this spread in her community on the Isle of White, she assisted a further nine people.

In recent weeks, a further 31 pensioners who are concerned about losing out on winter fuel payments this year ask for her help.

‘The whole process must be simplified,’ she says. ‘The form doesn’t need to be 243 questions and 24 pages. Pensioners don’t understand what a lot of it means.

‘It just needs to ask for their weekly income, proof of that income, if they have any savings or investments, and leave a space on the back page for any other information.’

Theresa says people often have trouble filling out the form by hand and don’t have access to the internet. But the intrusive nature of the questions and a determination not to be a burden on the state is also a big deterrent.

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‘The stigma makes them hesitant to do it in the first place.

‘I spend a lot of time convincing them they’re not doing anything wrong. It’s very sad. They’ve got a lot of pride and don’t think they should be asking for money.’

The first step in the process is to sit with the pensioners and gather all the information she needs before taking it away and filling out the form.

‘They say they have attempted it before and thrown it in the bin because they find the form too difficult to fill in or don’t understand it.

The mental health counsellor says one woman took five weeks trying to complete it all by herself.

In taking up the fight on behalf of local pensioners, Theresa has encountered shocking delays within the DWP.

The average pensioner waits for six months from the time they apply before their pension credit payments begin, she says, but the wait time can be anywhere from three to nine months.

One woman Theresa helped to apply in February – still hasn’t received a response and has been told she won’t hear an outcome until November.

In some cases, she has dealt with applications for attendance allowance first, which helps with extra costs for disabled pensioners who need someone to help look after them.

This is paid as an extra on top of the state pension.

Theresa helped one 77-year-old neighbour to apply for attendance allowance and successfully boosted her pension.

June Davies (who asked for her name to be changed) has been a neighbour of Theresa’s for about three years.

Theresa says: ‘I was happy to help because the year before we watched June shivering. We paid for extra gas for her at the time.’

June says: ‘Theresa’s marvellous. I don’t know where I’d be without her. She’s the best neighbour I’ve ever had.’

Since Theresa posted on social media last month about the complexity of the pension credit and attendance forms, she has been inundated with as many as 31 messages from pensioners asking if she could help with their applications.

While it’s a mammoth task for Theresa to complete on her own – with each application taking about 10 hours to complete – other Facebook users have offered to help and they are considering holding sessions in the local library.

She says: ‘As many as I can help I will.’

While help from charities is widely available, Theresa spoke to one lady earlier this year who couldn’t get through to charity Age UK with the pension credit form as they were ‘snowed under’ and would have to wait at least a year.

If you need to complete the form yourself, Theresa says to get all important documents and information together before you begin. Be aware you’ll also need information about your carer, such as their National Insurance number, if you have one.

She advises: ‘Try and do a bit of the form every day to lessen the stress. Don’t sit there and think “I have to do it all right now”.’

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